The person in your life who always remembers your preferences, your allergies, your coffee order, and your parking spot isn’t just thoughtful. They grew up in a house where noticing details was how you stayed safe.

Sarah, a 34-year-old project manager in Melbourne, once described to her therapist a habit she couldn’t explain: she memorized the dietary restrictions of every person at her office within two weeks of starting a new job. Not because anyone…